This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.When it comes to sending messages many people freak out.They want to say online dating sites give you profiles to work with.One of the most common remarks I hear from male online daters is, “I have no idea what to say.” This remark is often accompanied by the sound of defeat and ultimate frustration, as most of these men have spent months trying to write messages that get the attention of women online, often to no avail.The truth is writing a message that captures the attention of a woman isn’t nearly as difficult as one might think.
Make a positive impression and you’re halfway to getting laid.
In parenthesis I will notate my line of thinking for each remark I make.
Subject: We may have a problem here (This subject line ignites interest and curiosity, and it stands out from the other emails in her inbox.) Body: “Just a wink?
But my unique position as co-founder of Ok Cupid gives us special First, the site’s decade of history lets us see how technology has altered how people communicate.
Ok Cupid has records from the pre-smartphone, pre-Twitter, pre-Instagram days — hell, it was online when Myspace was still a file storage service.