It’s something like finding yourself holding a hot panhandle and gripping all the more tightly the more it burns. I also encourage you to respond to other postings with a few words of appreciation, support and ideas. There are many more readers of this dialogue than there are responders – you have an interested group here and we want to know what happens. Try viewing your dilemma as four-pronged: Choice 1 would be that you decide to leave your wife and that you do so in the most careful, strategic manner, doing the most that you can to ensure this unfolds as becoming the right choice.
Choice 2 would be that you leave in a way that magnifies the potential for a negative outcome, say by being mean, impulsive or passive, neglecting the care of your self, your social network, financial interests and so on.
The term is believed to originate from 12 Step recovery groups.
It is used to describe those who no longer drink alcohol but in many ways behave like they were still in the midst of addiction. Instead of finding joy in their life away from alcohol, they can act as if they were serving a prison sentence.
But if they’re part of the unique snowflake that makes her her, that’s a really bad sign.
Often, finance, children and other circumstances prevent any simple solutions.When you click on a Sponsored Product ad, you will be taken to an Amazon detail page where you can learn more about the product and purchase it.To learn more about Amazon Sponsored Products, click here.But, I also notice that many describe their own addiction of sorts – to the partner.A love and attachment you cannot shake, despite the consequences. My first suggestion would be to treat with skepticism any advice to take choice 1 over choice 2. And only you will know just how much sadness and anxiety is going to be inherent with either option.