“One spanking is certainly not the end of the world,” said Cynthia Hazel, an associate professor in the Child, Family and School Psychology Program at the University of Denver.
“But the thing is, if you hit a child they’ll try to figure out how to not get hit again.
They’re far from abusive, but they aren’t super-parents, either.
They’re busy and stressed, so they’re too lenient one day and too harsh the next.
There’s an even smaller number who are horrifically abusive to their kids.
But the biggest chunk by far are parents in the middle.
As I was reporting my recent series about child abuse, I came to realize that parents fall roughly into three categories.
The fine print took some of the gee whiz out of the news, as it turns out that France is only the 52nd country in the world to take such a step.That doesn’t mean you’re going to stop them from engaging in the behavior you’re trying to eliminate, or why it’s wrong.They’ll just try not to get caught.” Positive reinforcement is a more effective way to teach preferred behaviors in the long-term, said Hazel, a former school psychologist and therapist for Denver’s nonprofit Tennyson Center for Children.That’s in a country where 85 per cent of parents smack their children and are likely to carry on doing it, although a tad more discreetly from now on, perhaps. Just the other day, I watched another exemplar of the eternal conflict between misbehaving child and frustrated parent play out in a shopping mall.“Just wait until we get home,” the mother warned as her little princeling shook the rafters with a thunderous tantrum over some abruptly cancelled visit to Toys ‘R’ Us.